5 Ways to Engage in Self-Love

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Self-love is quite important for everyone and I mean everyone not leaving anyone behind. It is especially important while in your teenage years, some never get it at this stage; you should however not also miss it in your 20’s. In your 20’s you are more aware than ever. To develop a healthy sexuality, self-love is quite important, how would you know what is best for you if you do not love yourself.  It took a while for me to develop mine,  trust me some days I still falter and hurt myself which is quite okay, it is however not okay to not forgive and love yourself again. I have 5 ways I engage in self-love which I would like to share.

  • Know that your Happiness is with you and only you.

I remember some years back when I was depressed, it didn’t get too far thanks to my friend T, he made me sap out of it and this was the turning point to self-love for me. I would literally be in the midst of friends act happy one minute, the next I am lost in thought sad and lonely. My friends noticed one time and I immediately plastered a smile on my face for a minute, when they got carried away I went back to my lonely sad place. I took me knowing and deciding to know that only I could make me happy.

 

  • Have a self-care day

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You work hard all week or month, but don’t think to find a day to spoil yourself? I think you are just quite selfish to yourself. It might not be every week but at least in a month find a day, indulge yourself, take yourself out, eat all you can, sleep all day, watch movies all day and cry to that romance movie. It can be anything just find anything that makes you happy it is soothing to the soul.

 

  • Write a love letter to yourself

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I know that social media has made a lot of us not appreciate letters or know how to write one. One day take a pen and paper and think about all the beautiful reasons why you think you are amazingly awesome; sometimes, it doesn’t have to be a beautiful one just write and make yourself feel good. I blush when I write mine, and no I am not sharing lol.

 

  • Run away from toxicity

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When I say toxicity, I mean finding yourself in situations that affect you negatively; or finding people that affect you negatively. There are some people who just literally know how to make you angry and complain, they do things that always hurt you. Run from such people and situations.

 

  • Learn to forgive

This can be hard sometimes, very hard. My trick to forgiving is saying it out loud. It might take time to forget but first thing is forgiving. It takes time; you should find a method that works for you and forgive.

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