Passage Between Your Legs: The Pleasure workshop.

The fourth edition of Passage Between Your Legs took place on the 10th of November, started at 2pm. This edition was titled “pleasure 101” and it was aimed at letting young people understand pleasure and how it can be translated into practicing safe sex. All activities done were aimed at ensuring each participant learnt a thing or two on their sexual health.

Introductions were made as there were new members. General rule is to say your name and mention a word related to sexuality (this is aimed and dispelling the stereotypes on sexual health). Mtv Shuga, a series on issues of sexual and reproductive health was showed, it lasted for 20 mins, a discussion on lessons learned include:

– Transactional sex,

– The importance of teaching comprehensive sexuality education to young people as they are always curious.

-Relationship dynamics and the importance of communicating with a partner.

So you think you can wear a condom?

Second activity was the condom-line up game. This game aims at teaching that using of condoms was beyond just a wearing process and it can be a pleasurable activity. Safe to say we now have people who are pros in using a condom correctly.

The final activity was the disussion on Pleasure 101.

Questions asked:

  • What is low libido and how can it improved?
  • Masturbation makes one want more sex and one cannot be satisfied.

Key take aways

What does pleasure mean to you?

  1. Know your erogenous zones such as the lips, breast, navel, inner thighs etc. Know what turns you on and off.

We are all the same parts but organized in a different way

-Emily Nagoski

Centering your pleasure:

  1. It is important to always communicate with a partner.
  2. Not all sex leads to orgasms, focus on enjoying the ride and not the end goal. This does not mean you should not want an orgasm its is your right to get an orgasm.
  3. understand your body. Know what your sex organs look and feel like and a good way to do that is masturbation.
  4. Pleasure is beyond penetration.
  5. Consent sex is pleasurable sex.

….With knowledge of pleasure how then can we have pleasurable safe sex?

Condom pleasure tips . We shared some tips on how to make condom pleausrable

Consent: always seek consent, with consent you are more relaxed and interested.

Sexual responsibility . When you know you have protected yourself from sti and unplanned pregnancy you are more likely to relax and enjoy sex with you partner.

After the session, we all took time to talk to each other. This is the last session for the year, passage Between your Legs resumes February 2019 and we hope you can join us.


Know The STI: Hepatitis B

Hepatitis B is a liver infection caused by the Hepatitis B virus (HBV). Hepatitis B is transmitted when blood, semen, or another body fluid from a person infected with the Hepatitis B virus enters the body of someone who is not infected. Hepatitis is an inflammation of the liver. The condition can be self-limiting or can progress to fibrosis (scarring), cirrhosis or liver cancer. Hepatitis viruses are the most common cause of hepatitis in the world but other infections, toxic substances (e.g. alcohol, certain drugs), and autoimmune diseases can also cause hepatitis. For some people, hepatitis B is an acute or short-term illness, but for others, it can become a long-term chronic infection. Risk for chronic infection is related to age at infection. Chronic Hepatitis B can lead to serious health issues, like cirrhosis or liver cancer. The best way to prevent Hepatitis B is by getting vaccinated.

Mode of transmission

Hepatitis B virus (HBV) is transmitted via blood or sexual contact. This can happen through sexual contact; sharing needles, syringes, or other drug-injection equipment; or from mother to baby at birth.

Types of Hepatitis

There are 5 main hepatitis viruses, referred to as types A, B, C, D and E. These 5 types are of greatest concern because of the burden of illness and death they cause and the potential for outbreaks and epidemic spread. In particular, types B and C lead to chronic disease in hundreds of millions of people and, together, are the most common cause of liver cirrhosis and cancer.

Hepatitis B virus (HBV) is transmitted through exposure to infective blood, semen, and other body fluids. HBV can be transmitted from infected mothers to infants at the time of birth or from family member to infant in early childhood. Transmission may also occur through transfusions of HBV-contaminated blood and blood products, contaminated injections during medical procedures, and through injection drug use. HBV also poses a risk to healthcare workers who sustain accidental needle stick injuries while caring for infected-HBV patients. Safe and effective vaccines are available to prevent HBV.

Hepatitis C virus (HCV) is mostly transmitted through exposure to infective blood. This may happen through transfusions of HCV-contaminated blood and blood products, contaminated injections during medical procedures, and through injection drug use. Sexual transmission is also possible, but is much less common. There is no vaccine for HCV.

Hepatitis D virus (HDV) infections occur only in those who are infected with HBV. The dual infection of HDV and HBV can result in a more serious disease and worse outcome. Hepatitis B vaccines provide protection from HDV infection.

Signs and symptoms

Symptoms may not manifest until 1-6 months after getting infected with the virus. Some signs to look out for include: Jaundice( yellowing of the skin or white of the eyes). Fever, fatigue, loss of appetite, nausea, belly pain, and vomitting.


Diagnosis is made with blood tests( there are rapid tests available now), physical examination, the liver would also be checked to determine if it healthy.

It is however advised to get tested and vaccinated as it is preventable.


Hepatitis B virus (HBV) infection in a pregnant woman poses a serious risk to her infant at birth. It is associated with high risk complications for the mother and has become a leading cause of foetal death. Transmission to the foetus occurs if the mother has had acute hepatitis B infection during late pregnancy or if the mother ia a chronic carrier.


Cente for disease control and prevention viral hepatitis

Preggies n Babies 5-Step Guide To Sex readiness

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Deciding to engage in sexual activity is a big decision which you don’t just delve into (some might not agree). You don’t want to be that person who gets stuck with a  pregnancy after one attempt at sex with someone you might not like or enjoy sex with. There are some things to consider before getting engaged sexually with another person, which are:

  • Be aware you can get pregnant by having sex just once. So get familiar with ways to avoid getting pregnant such as the use of contraceptives. Explore your options and find that which suits you.  It’s totally normal to feel uncomfortable talking about it, but you’ll feel better once you start talking trust me, the best time to talk about safer sex is BEFORE you start having sex.

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  • Be aware of the sexually transmitted infections(STI’s) out there, STI’s are not a good thing and no one will tell you they have an STI (most times they don’t even know they have one). So protect yourself and use condoms, be assertive, no condoms no sex or better still try and get yours and have in your bag so you are ready.
  • Know why you are having sex, hoping to get that big orgasm you hear about or read in the novels of mills and boons or harlequin you are about to be disappointed cause you might not get so lucky. Sex is like fine wine that gets better as it ages, depending also on your lover.
  • Be conscious of your reproductive health. Have that one friend you can trust who won’t judge you and let her/him know about any challenges you are having. They can be very helpful and you can help each other. It helps to know you aren’t going through something alone.
  • Maintain good vaginal hygiene. Know how your body works, get familiar with that area, it’s not going to bite. know when your vagina smells horrible or how your discharge looks, when something is different you would detect on time.

Continue reading “Preggies n Babies 5-Step Guide To Sex readiness”



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Toxaemia is a condition that arises only during pregnancy,  also popularly known as pre-eclampsia.  I have a previous post on High blood pressure in pregnancy in pregnancy and the various types of high blood pressure in pregnancy.

Pre eclampsia is one of the types of high blood pressure in pregnancy, it can lead to eclampsia or kidney damage over time. It is usually screened for during each antenatal visit (this is why antenatal visits are very important) by checking your blood pressure and testing your urine for proteins.

It is common for first-time mums and can happen at any time in the second half of pregnancy, during labor or even up to six weeks after delivery. I used to think that pre-eclampsia only occurred during pregnancy till I heard of stories of women who didn’t have pre-eclampsia throughout pregnancy until after labor and delivery, and some who develop during labor hence it can occur anytime.

It can become very severe quickly and sometimes it progresses slowly, if left untreated it can lead to dangerous health problems for you and your baby.

It can become very severe quickly and sometimes it progresses slowly, if left untreated it can lead to dangerous health problems for you and your baby.


Some of the common signs of pre-eclampsia include:

  1. Swelling of the legs, sometimes puffiness of the eyes, swollen hands such that wearing your wedding band becomes so tight and uncomfortable
  2. Severe or a persistent headache.
  3. The presence of protein in the urine.
  4. High blood pressure.
  5. Weight gain
  6. Other signs would include vision changes including double vision, blurriness, light sensitivity, Intense pain tenderness in the upper abdomen. Nausea and vomiting, difficulty in breathing.


  • Ensure you don’t miss antenatal appointments. It is usually detected by your midwife during the routine antenatal check-up.
  • Avoid excessive salt intake.
  • Avoid  getting stressed as much as possible, stress can cause blood pressure to increase.
  • You can check your blood pressure by yourself at home if you have access to a digital blood pressure machine weekly to ensure you blood pressure is below 130/90mmhg, if you detect an elevated blood pressure rest for 30 minutes and check again if it is consistent call your midwife or doctor immediately to alert them of what you noticed.

Note: not all women with pre-eclampsia have swellings in the legs or rapid weight gain and not all women with rapid weight gain have pre-eclampsia.



The one thing I love best about Nigeria is how our culture shapes us and the mix of religion to it makes it more wonderful, it literally influences every aspect of our lives from how to relate with people especially the elderly to the kind of food we eat and the cloth we wear. Growing up as a child we are ingrained with different beliefs, one thing that I know is hardly ever discussed in a Nigerian home is pregnancy and birth, in short it’s like a taboo




so its the 31st today end of another wonderful year of blogging and giving out information  i enjoyed every part of it and it has been a wonderful year. 2017 promises to be better, i have lots of plans for the blog and i hope you would love them.i hope you all have your goals for next year because i do and  next year the blog would look better and be inclusive of daddies we don’t want to leave the daddies out anymore they deserve to know so they can better support and help with the baby so watch out for that.

I therefore want to use this opportunity to appreciate all my readers and followers you keep me going every morning , thank you for always finding time to read my blog because it would be nothing without you. see you in 2017!!!!


Merry Christmas and a prosperous new year!!!!!!!!!!!!

Movie Review: DRY by Stephanie Linus


So I watched the movie DRY by Stephanie Linus(formerly known as Stephanie okereke) a Nigerian actress. The movie I must confess is really good and it depicts so many factors influencing maternal and child mortality in Nigeria most of which are preventable, the struggles and pains of women daily. It depicts factors such as :
– lack of access to good medical care .
– lack of access to education .
– poverty .
-child bride problems such as vesico vaginal fistula .
– The nonavailability of skilled midwives or birth attendants (people would rather use the traditional birth attendants that lack the needed knowledge and skills for safe childbirth).
– the inability of women to take responsibility for their reproductive health. There are cases in which the mother in-law or husband decides the reproductive health for their wives such as family planning .
-also physical abuse to women which is one issue in which there is increasing awareness for .


Believe it or not these things happen everyday and it is disheartening to know that some of these factors are nor so far fetched among literates (such as child bride) . Nigerians are greatly influenced by culture and religion , but we need to know when to draw the line (such as running to the church to deliver when indicated for cesearean section) , spirituality is highly encouraged in health  cause it helps individuals mentally but we need to draw the line and know when to seek health care the earliar you seek healthcare the better the chances of survival.


The movie not only shows the health issues but also the social and mental impacts (such as suicidal ideations) of these things and how women suffer. I must confess I cried at some point because I was touched  by the movie and I decided that I would share this with everybody I can reach out to. It is possible to reduce vesico vaginal fistula and maternal and child mortality in Nigeria, we also have our roles to play seek healthcare early. Kudos to Stephanie Linus on this movie.
Please read, share and watch the movie , your opinions count please make a  comment.

4 things you should know this season

This season is the season of love, happiness and sharing. There is a lot of love in the air so everyone would definitely catch the love fever. There are  four things you should remember in this season .


  1) If you not ready to make another baby ensure you make use of a good form of contraception ,(could be condoms or pills) any contraceptive of choice. But if its time to make another baby make the most of the season and make that baby.

2) This is for my lovely mothers ,your child’s health is of utmost importance this season. The weather is harsh with a lot of flu in the air, keep their skin well moisturized with the use of oils  and keep them as warm as possible we don’t want  them coming down with a flu. Also ensure that they are hydrated as much as possible .

3)  Take this festive period to relax and enjoy , relieve yourself of stress. Preggo or nursing mother , you can have a weekend getaway and bond with that lovely significant other.


4) Last but not the least is for my preggoes ,please avoid alcohol and smoking in this festive period. There would be a lot of it around try as much as possible to avoid it . we definitely want you and the baby coming out healthy.


Make the most of the season and enjoy.
Happy holidays!!!!!