Preggies n Babies 5-Step Guide To Sex readiness

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Deciding to engage in sexual activity is a big decision which you don’t just delve into (some might not agree). You don’t want to be that person who gets stuck with a  pregnancy after one attempt at sex with someone you might not like or enjoy sex with. There are some things to consider before getting engaged sexually with another person, which are:

  • Be aware you can get pregnant by having sex just once. So get familiar with ways to avoid getting pregnant such as the use of contraceptives. Explore your options and find that which suits you.  It’s totally normal to feel uncomfortable talking about it, but you’ll feel better once you start talking trust me, the best time to talk about safer sex is BEFORE you start having sex.

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  • Be aware of the sexually transmitted infections(STI’s) out there, STI’s are not a good thing and no one will tell you they have an STI (most times they don’t even know they have one). So protect yourself and use condoms, be assertive, no condoms no sex or better still try and get yours and have in your bag so you are ready.
  • Know why you are having sex, hoping to get that big orgasm you hear about or read in the novels of mills and boons or harlequin you are about to be disappointed cause you might not get so lucky. Sex is like fine wine that gets better as it ages, depending also on your lover.
  • Be conscious of your reproductive health. Have that one friend you can trust who won’t judge you and let her/him know about any challenges you are having. They can be very helpful and you can help each other. It helps to know you aren’t going through something alone.
  • Maintain good vaginal hygiene. Know how your body works, get familiar with that area, it’s not going to bite. know when your vagina smells horrible or how your discharge looks, when something is different you would detect on time.

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Toxaemia is a condition that arises only during pregnancy,  also popularly known as pre-eclampsia.  I have a previous post on High blood pressure in pregnancy in pregnancy and the various types of high blood pressure in pregnancy.

Pre eclampsia is one of the types of high blood pressure in pregnancy, it can lead to eclampsia or kidney damage over time. It is usually screened for during each antenatal visit (this is why antenatal visits are very important) by checking your blood pressure and testing your urine for proteins.

It is common for first-time mums and can happen at any time in the second half of pregnancy, during labor or even up to six weeks after delivery. I used to think that pre-eclampsia only occurred during pregnancy till I heard of stories of women who didn’t have pre-eclampsia throughout pregnancy until after labor and delivery, and some who develop during labor hence it can occur anytime.

It can become very severe quickly and sometimes it progresses slowly, if left untreated it can lead to dangerous health problems for you and your baby.

It can become very severe quickly and sometimes it progresses slowly, if left untreated it can lead to dangerous health problems for you and your baby.


Some of the common signs of pre-eclampsia include:

  1. Swelling of the legs, sometimes puffiness of the eyes, swollen hands such that wearing your wedding band becomes so tight and uncomfortable
  2. Severe or a persistent headache.
  3. The presence of protein in the urine.
  4. High blood pressure.
  5. Weight gain
  6. Other signs would include vision changes including double vision, blurriness, light sensitivity, Intense pain tenderness in the upper abdomen. Nausea and vomiting, difficulty in breathing.


  • Ensure you don’t miss antenatal appointments. It is usually detected by your midwife during the routine antenatal check-up.
  • Avoid excessive salt intake.
  • Avoid  getting stressed as much as possible, stress can cause blood pressure to increase.
  • You can check your blood pressure by yourself at home if you have access to a digital blood pressure machine weekly to ensure you blood pressure is below 130/90mmhg, if you detect an elevated blood pressure rest for 30 minutes and check again if it is consistent call your midwife or doctor immediately to alert them of what you noticed.

Note: not all women with pre-eclampsia have swellings in the legs or rapid weight gain and not all women with rapid weight gain have pre-eclampsia.



The one thing I love best about Nigeria is how our culture shapes us and the mix of religion to it makes it more wonderful, it literally influences every aspect of our lives from how to relate with people especially the elderly to the kind of food we eat and the cloth we wear. Growing up as a child we are ingrained with different beliefs, one thing that I know is hardly ever discussed in a Nigerian home is pregnancy and birth, in short it’s like a taboo




so its the 31st today end of another wonderful year of blogging and giving out information  i enjoyed every part of it and it has been a wonderful year. 2017 promises to be better, i have lots of plans for the blog and i hope you would love them.i hope you all have your goals for next year because i do and  next year the blog would look better and be inclusive of daddies we don’t want to leave the daddies out anymore they deserve to know so they can better support and help with the baby so watch out for that.

I therefore want to use this opportunity to appreciate all my readers and followers you keep me going every morning , thank you for always finding time to read my blog because it would be nothing without you. see you in 2017!!!!


Merry Christmas and a prosperous new year!!!!!!!!!!!!

Movie Review: DRY by Stephanie Linus


So I watched the movie DRY by Stephanie Linus(formerly known as Stephanie okereke) a Nigerian actress. The movie I must confess is really good and it depicts so many factors influencing maternal and child mortality in Nigeria most of which are preventable, the struggles and pains of women daily. It depicts factors such as :
– lack of access to good medical care .
– lack of access to education .
– poverty .
-child bride problems such as vesico vaginal fistula .
– The nonavailability of skilled midwives or birth attendants (people would rather use the traditional birth attendants that lack the needed knowledge and skills for safe childbirth).
– the inability of women to take responsibility for their reproductive health. There are cases in which the mother in-law or husband decides the reproductive health for their wives such as family planning .
-also physical abuse to women which is one issue in which there is increasing awareness for .


Believe it or not these things happen everyday and it is disheartening to know that some of these factors are nor so far fetched among literates (such as child bride) . Nigerians are greatly influenced by culture and religion , but we need to know when to draw the line (such as running to the church to deliver when indicated for cesearean section) , spirituality is highly encouraged in health  cause it helps individuals mentally but we need to draw the line and know when to seek health care the earliar you seek healthcare the better the chances of survival.


The movie not only shows the health issues but also the social and mental impacts (such as suicidal ideations) of these things and how women suffer. I must confess I cried at some point because I was touched  by the movie and I decided that I would share this with everybody I can reach out to. It is possible to reduce vesico vaginal fistula and maternal and child mortality in Nigeria, we also have our roles to play seek healthcare early. Kudos to Stephanie Linus on this movie.
Please read, share and watch the movie , your opinions count please make a  comment.

4 things you should know this season

This season is the season of love, happiness and sharing. There is a lot of love in the air so everyone would definitely catch the love fever. There are  four things you should remember in this season .


  1) If you not ready to make another baby ensure you make use of a good form of contraception ,(could be condoms or pills) any contraceptive of choice. But if its time to make another baby make the most of the season and make that baby.

2) This is for my lovely mothers ,your child’s health is of utmost importance this season. The weather is harsh with a lot of flu in the air, keep their skin well moisturized with the use of oils  and keep them as warm as possible we don’t want  them coming down with a flu. Also ensure that they are hydrated as much as possible .

3)  Take this festive period to relax and enjoy , relieve yourself of stress. Preggo or nursing mother , you can have a weekend getaway and bond with that lovely significant other.


4) Last but not the least is for my preggoes ,please avoid alcohol and smoking in this festive period. There would be a lot of it around try as much as possible to avoid it . we definitely want you and the baby coming out healthy.


Make the most of the season and enjoy.
Happy holidays!!!!!

Smoking and pregnancy


“Smokers are liable to die young” that is heard everyday by people but it is still posing a problem in the society today Smoking is particularly bad for you in pregnancy, it can cause serious health conditions such as cancer of the lungs. Apart from it being a cause of cancer, smoking before pregnancy makes it more difficult for you to get pregnant.
Smoking when pregnant is bad for both you and your baby. When you smoke you pass harmful chemicals such as nicotine to your baby through the placenta and umbilical cord which can cause health conditions.
Some would say “well I don’t smoke how does this concern me” well it does because there are other ways by which these harmful chemical substances  from smoke can get into your body without actively smoking . It is called passive smoking and there are two ways in which it occurs : second hand smoke  and third hand smoke .

Second-hand smoke
   Second-hand smoke is the smoke you breathe in from someone else’s cigarette. In other words being around people that smoke is bad for you and the baby. It can cause your baby to be born with a low birth weight.


Third-hand smoke
      Third- hand smoke is what is left behind from tobacco and cigarette smoke. It could be carbon monoxide or lead. It is the residual smell that is left on the clothes of people that smoke. Mothers who use cooking stoves the smoke that comes when you use water to kill the fire is carbon monoxide that smoke is unhealthy for you and your baby. This smoke can cause asthma, breathing problems or learning disorders for your baby.
So today avoid smoke get good fresh air and you and your baby would turn out healthy .
To be continued……

Hi mums!!!!


Hi!! am jummie aka jadeb, this is my first post on preggies n babies. P&B is all about women’s health as well as their babies .I hope to help to correct and clarify misconceptions about women’s health in a fun interactive way and I hope my preggies and mama’s find it helpful. Happy reading!!!