DIY: Breast Self-Examination

Breast self-examination as the name implies is the practice of checking the breast on a monthly basis to detect any abnormalities. It is quite common to experience breast tenderness one or two weeks before your period. At different times in your growing years, there are several factors that can cause changes in your breast such as:

  • Increase in age
  • Menstrual cycle
  • Pregnancy
  • Breastfeeding
  • Birth control pills.

It is still however very important to examine your breast monthly, you should note

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Common Myths of Intimate Partner Violence.

Myths Of Intimate Partner violence

I found myself one time in the midst of older women a mix of women in their 30s, 40s and 50s talking and trying to help one of the women solve some of her issues, soon the topic of discussion tilted to another woman who was being battered by her husband, I was in a mix of anger and sadness I hated to hear of women being battered and I could not help. My worries didn’t stop at that I was worried because of the conclusions made about how she could have avoided being battered, they were not sure why she got battered as this woman was said to be a calm gentle person so why was she getting battered? Which is why I decided to talk about this, there are a lot of myths associated with battering and this only helps to fuel the issue of intimate partner violence (Domestic Violence) and we need to unlearn these myths and renew our minds so we can help women in situations of Intimate partner violence. Continue reading “Common Myths of Intimate Partner Violence.”

We Should All Be Sexually Responsible.

Ayo and Joshua are two young people who want to meet up and have a rump in the sack(I mean sex), as expected Joshua does the chasing Ayo is interested but due to the Nigerian factor she acts like she isn’t interested, eventually agrees to meet up with him at his house. They meet up and they ended up having sex Joshua didn’t have a condom, Ayo didn’t bring a condom along either.  Oops!!!

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5 Ways to Engage in Self-Love

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Self-love is quite important for everyone and I mean everyone not leaving anyone behind. It is especially important while in your teenage years, some never get it at this stage; you should however not also miss it in your 20’s. In your 20’s you are more aware than ever. To develop a healthy sexuality, self-love is quite important, how would you know what is best for you if you do not love yourself.  It took a while for me to develop mine,  trust me some days I still falter and hurt myself which is quite okay, it is however not okay to not forgive and love yourself again. I have 5 ways I engage in self-love which I would like to share.

  • Know that your Happiness is with you and only you.

I remember some years back when I was depressed, it didn’t get too far thanks to my friend T, he made me sap out of it and this was the turning point to self-love for me. I would literally be in the midst of friends act happy one minute, the next I am lost in thought sad and lonely. My friends noticed one time and I immediately plastered a smile on my face for a minute, when they got carried away I went back to my lonely sad place. I took me knowing and deciding to know that only I could make me happy.

 

  • Have a self-care day

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You work hard all week or month, but don’t think to find a day to spoil yourself? I think you are just quite selfish to yourself. It might not be every week but at least in a month find a day, indulge yourself, take yourself out, eat all you can, sleep all day, watch movies all day and cry to that romance movie. It can be anything just find anything that makes you happy it is soothing to the soul.

 

  • Write a love letter to yourself

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I know that social media has made a lot of us not appreciate letters or know how to write one. One day take a pen and paper and think about all the beautiful reasons why you think you are amazingly awesome; sometimes, it doesn’t have to be a beautiful one just write and make yourself feel good. I blush when I write mine, and no I am not sharing lol.

 

  • Run away from toxicity

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When I say toxicity, I mean finding yourself in situations that affect you negatively; or finding people that affect you negatively. There are some people who just literally know how to make you angry and complain, they do things that always hurt you. Run from such people and situations.

 

  • Learn to forgive

This can be hard sometimes, very hard. My trick to forgiving is saying it out loud. It might take time to forget but first thing is forgiving. It takes time; you should find a method that works for you and forgive.

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We need more Lubes

Lubes are so underrated.

There are a lot of things that occur in our regular daily life when you have two surfaces together and you need to separate or it seems stuck the next solution would be to lubricate with oil or some form of lubricants.

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Lubricants are underrated, to be honest, they just make things easier. I remember growing up, the padlock seems difficult to open the next thing is “pour oil” it can be palm oil or engine oil, doesn’t matter as long as it makes it easier to open the padlock. Applies to wearing a new shoe, recently got a new shoe and I ended up getting bruised at the back of my legs, my cousin saw the plaster and asked: ” what happened to your legs?” I replied, ” it’s the shoe I just bought, it bruised me” her response was ” didn’t you oil your legs well?” ” yeah I did”; ” you didn’t oil your legs well, it’s a new shoe so you need to oil your legs well to prevent it next time”.

I also remember when I was much younger if I wanted to fit in bangles that were not exactly my size my first line of action was to find me a lotion and lubricate my hands.
Guys, use Vaseline or a form of lubrication when masturbating. Masturbation with lubes is another experience entirely (both male and female).

Lubricants just seemed to solve every problem.

So my question is why don’t we think of lubrication with sex? With condoms or Not, we need more Lubes with sex, especially with condoms.
There are a lot of reasons why people don’t use condoms which lubrication will solve.

Females: I dry out easily with condoms, Use a lube.
Males: I have less sensation with condoms, put a few drops of lube in the condom before wearing gives that moist feeling of the vagina.
Female: I have tears sometimes from sex, use a lube.

Note: use only water-based lubricants with condoms and vaginal sex.

I hope we use more Lubes with sex cause we definitely need more lubes.

Your padlock refuses to open at home. You need more lube.
Your vagina drys out easily. You need more Lubes.

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The Simple Act of Hand washing.

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Imagine, if we didn’t have access to water and soap, all the infections and diseases people will come down with. Hand washing is very important practice, to prevent one from coming down with infections, and also one of the simplest underrated ways of preventing diseases and infections. Handwashing is usually well observed for children, because their immunity is not that fully developed so they tend to get infected easily,

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Know The STI: Gonorrhea

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Gonorrhea is an STI that is quite common among the average Nigerian, among the transport workers(who are considered to be unlearned) it is very common every STI is literally gonorrhea to them. This, however, doesn’t mean proper precaution is taken to prevent it or it is being treated properly.

It is caused by bacterium Neisseria gonorrhea, it has the highest rates in females, most men

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