5 Ways to Engage in Self-Love

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Self-love is quite important for everyone and I mean everyone not leaving anyone behind. It is especially important while in your teenage years, some never get it at this stage; you should however not also miss it in your 20’s. In your 20’s you are more aware than ever. To develop a healthy sexuality, self-love is quite important, how would you know what is best for you if you do not love yourself.  It took a while for me to develop mine,  trust me some days I still falter and hurt myself which is quite okay, it is however not okay to not forgive and love yourself again. I have 5 ways I engage in self-love which I would like to share.

  • Know that your Happiness is with you and only you.

I remember some years back when I was depressed, it didn’t get too far thanks to my friend T, he made me sap out of it and this was the turning point to self-love for me. I would literally be in the midst of friends act happy one minute, the next I am lost in thought sad and lonely. My friends noticed one time and I immediately plastered a smile on my face for a minute, when they got carried away I went back to my lonely sad place. I took me knowing and deciding to know that only I could make me happy.

  • Have a self-care day

You work hard all week or month, but don’t think to find a day to spoil yourself? I think you are just quite selfish to yourself. It might not be every week but at least in a month find a day, indulge yourself, take yourself out, eat all you can, sleep all day, watch movies all day and cry to that romance movie. It can be anything just find anything that makes you happy it is soothing to the soul.

  • Write a love letter to yourself

I know that social media has made a lot of us not appreciate letters or know how to write one. One day take a pen and paper and think about all the beautiful reasons why you think you are amazingly awesome; sometimes, it doesn’t have to be a beautiful one just write and make yourself feel good. I blush when I write mine, and no I am not sharing lol.

  • Run away from toxicity

When I say toxicity, I mean finding yourself I situations that affect you negatively; or finding people that affect you negatively. There are some people who just literally know how to make you angry and complain, they do things that always hurt you. Run from such people and situations.

  • Learn to forgive

This can be hard sometimes, very hard. My trick to forgiving is saying it out loud. It might take time to forget but first thing is forgiving. It takes time; you should find a method that works for you and forgive.

 

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What Nigerian women should know about gestational diabetes.

Gestational Diabetes

Diabetes is a condition in which there is a high level of glucose (sugar) in the blood. Gestational diabetes, however, is when diabetes occurs as a result of pregnancy and it usually disappears after pregnancy. It can occur anytime during pregnancy.

There is no known cause of gestational diabetes, however; the placenta releases hormones which disturbs the work of insulin in the body of the mother. This makes it difficult for the body to use insulin this is called Continue reading “What Nigerian women should know about gestational diabetes.”

We need more Lubes

Lubes are so underrated.

There are a lot of things that occur in our regular daily life when you have two surfaces together and you need to separate or it seems stuck the next solution would be to lubricate with oil or some form of lubricants.

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Lubricants are underrated, to be honest, they just make things easier. I remember growing up, the padlock seems difficult to open the next thing is “pour oil” it can be palm oil or engine oil, doesn’t matter as long as it makes it easier to open the padlock. Applies to wearing a new shoe, recently got a new shoe and I ended up getting bruised at the back of my legs, my cousin saw the plaster and asked: ” what happened to your legs?” I replied, ” it’s the shoe I just bought, it bruised me” her response was ” didn’t you oil your legs well?” ” yeah I did”; ” you didn’t oil your legs well, it’s a new shoe so you need to oil your legs well to prevent it next time”.

I also remember when I was much younger if I wanted to fit in bangles that were not exactly my size my first line of action was to find me a lotion and lubricate my hands.
Guys, use Vaseline or a form of lubrication when masturbating. Masturbation with lubes is another experience entirely (both male and female).

Lubricants just seemed to solve every problem.

So my question is why don’t we think of lubrication with sex? With condoms or Not, we need more Lubes with sex, especially with condoms.
There are a lot of reasons why people don’t use condoms which lubrication will solve.

Females: I dry out easily with condoms, Use a lube.
Males: I have less sensation with condoms, put a few drops of lube in the condom before wearing gives that moist feeling of the vagina.
Female: I have tears sometimes from sex, use a lube.

Note: use only water-based lubricants with condoms and vaginal sex.

I hope we use more Lubes with sex cause we definitely need more lubes.

Your padlock refuses to open at home. You need more lube.
Your vagina drys out easily. You need more Lubes.

 

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The Simple Act of Hand washing.

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Imagine if we didn’t have access to water and soap, all the infections and diseases people will come down with. Hand washing is very important to prevent coming down with infections and also one of the simplest underrated ways of preventing diseases and infections. Handwashing is usually well observed for children because their immunity is not that fully developed so they tend to get infected easily, Continue reading “The Simple Act of Hand washing.”

Preggies n Babies 5-Step Guide To Sex readiness

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Deciding to engage in sexual activity is a big decision which you don’t just delve into (some might not agree). You don’t want to be that person who gets stuck with a  pregnancy after one attempt at sex with someone you might not like or enjoy sex with. There are some things to consider before getting engaged sexually with another person, which are:

  • Be aware you can get pregnant by having sex just once. So get familiar with ways to avoid getting pregnant such as the use of contraceptives. Explore your options and find that which suits you.  It’s totally normal to feel uncomfortable talking about it, but you’ll feel better once you start talking trust me, the best time to talk about safer sex is BEFORE you start having sex.

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  • Be aware of the sexually transmitted infections(STI’s) out there, STI’s are not a good thing and no one will tell you they have an STI (most times they don’t even know they have one). So protect yourself and use condoms, be assertive, no condoms no sex or better still try and get yours and have in your bag so you are ready.
  • Know why you are having sex, hoping to get that big orgasm you hear about or read in the novels of mills and boons or harlequin you are about to be disappointed cause you might not get so lucky. Sex is like fine wine that gets better as it ages, depending also on your lover.
  • Be conscious of your reproductive health. Have that one friend you can trust who won’t judge you and let her/him know about any challenges you are having. They can be very helpful and you can help each other. It helps to know you aren’t going through something alone.
  • Maintain good vaginal hygiene. Know how your body works, get familiar with that area, it’s not going to bite. know when your vagina smells horrible or how your discharge looks, when something is different you would detect on time.

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Know The STI: Gonorrhea

Gonorrhea

Gonorrhea is an STI that is quite common among the average Nigerian, among the transport workers(who are considered to be unlearned) it is very common every STI is literally gonorrhea to them. This, however, doesn’t mean proper precaution is taken to prevent it or it is being treated properly.

It is caused by bacterium Neisseria gonorrhea, it has the highest rates in females, most men

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Bacterial Vaginosis

Bacterial Vaginosis

Bacteria Vaginosis increases ones chance of getting infected with an STI.

 

Vaginal hygiene is very important and Bacterial vaginosis is one of the effects of poor vaginal hygiene or ones attempt in trying to make the vagina smell like roses and pineapples. Bacterial vaginosis is responsible for the most common type of vaginal discharge. It is caused by the overgrowth of a mixture of bacteria that are often normally present in small quantities including Gardnerella vaginalis and in the absence of lactobacilli. It happens when there are too much of a certain Continue reading “Bacterial Vaginosis”