DIY: Breast Self-Examination

Breast self-examination as the name implies is the practice of checking the breast on a monthly basis to detect any abnormalities. It is quite common to experience breast tenderness one or two weeks before your period.  At different times in your growing years, there are several factors that can cause changes in your breast such as:

  • Increase in age
  • Menstrual cycle
  • Pregnancy
  • Breastfeeding
  • Birth control pills.

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Common Myths of Intimate Partner Violence.

Myths Of Intimate Partner violence

I found myself one time in the midst of older women a mix of women in their 30s, 40s and 50s talking and trying to help one of the women solve some of her issues, soon the topic of discussion tilted to another woman who was being battered by her husband, I was in a mix of anger and sadness I hated to hear of women being battered and I could not help. My worries didn’t stop at that I was worried because of the conclusions made about how she could have avoided being battered, they were not sure why she got battered as this woman was said to be a calm gentle person so why was she getting battered? Which is why I decided to talk about this, there are a lot of myths associated with battering and this only helps to fuel the issue of intimate partner violence (Domestic Violence) and we need to unlearn these myths and renew our minds so we can help women in situations of Intimate partner violence. Continue reading “Common Myths of Intimate Partner Violence.”

How not to have an Abortion

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Abortions is a very sensitive topic to be discussed in Nigeria which a lot of people shy away from because of various reasons mostly religious reasons, it is still however occurring. In Nigeria abortions are illegal except in a case where the life of the woman has to be saved, hence, it’s tagged a life saving procedure. In other countries there are different Abortion laws with the various conditions. One would think that as religious as Nigeria is plus the abortion law in place the abortion rate would be low,

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A 1000 Days Makes All the Difference

A Thousand Days Makes All The Difference

Every woman hopes to achieve have a healthy baby and if possible ensure the baby is healthy and strong throughout the growing years till adulthood, a lot of women, however, don’t know how to achieve this task which seems unachievable but yet is achievable if only we knew that A 1000 days makes all the difference. The first 100 days of a child’s life is very critical. Women do things during this critical period to

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We Should All Be Sexually Responsible.

Ayo and Joshua are two young people who want to meet up and have a rump in the sack(I mean sex), as expected Joshua does the chasing Ayo is interested but due to the Nigerian factor she acts like she isn’t interested, eventually agrees to meet up with him at his house. They meet up and they ended up having sex Joshua didn’t have a condom, Ayo didn’t bring a condom along either.  Oops!!!

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Can Cesarean Section Affect Breastfeeding?

It is quite common to hear women who go through a cesarean section complain about not breastfeeding adequately or having difficulty with establishing breastfeeding. Cesarean births are associated with a delay in initiating breastfeeding. Cesarean births affect breastfeeding by delaying the initiation and establishment of lactation but not continuance which means you might experience a delay with your milk coming in but not with maintaining the milk supply. There needs to be a commitment to breastfeeding despite the manner of birth. Many mothers who go through a cesarean section usually feel like they failed as women

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5 Ways to Engage in Self-Love

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Self-love is quite important for everyone and I mean everyone not leaving anyone behind. It is especially important while in your teenage years, some never get it at this stage; you should however not also miss it in your 20’s. In your 20’s you are more aware than ever. To develop a healthy sexuality, self-love is quite important, how would you know what is best for you if you do not love yourself.  It took a while for me to develop mine,  trust me some days I still falter and hurt myself which is quite okay, it is however not okay to not forgive and love yourself again. I have 5 ways I engage in self-love which I would like to share.

  • Know that your Happiness is with you and only you.

I remember some years back when I was depressed, it didn’t get too far thanks to my friend T, he made me sap out of it and this was the turning point to self-love for me. I would literally be in the midst of friends act happy one minute, the next I am lost in thought sad and lonely. My friends noticed one time and I immediately plastered a smile on my face for a minute, when they got carried away I went back to my lonely sad place. I took me knowing and deciding to know that only I could make me happy.

 

  • Have a self-care day

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You work hard all week or month, but don’t think to find a day to spoil yourself? I think you are just quite selfish to yourself. It might not be every week but at least in a month find a day, indulge yourself, take yourself out, eat all you can, sleep all day, watch movies all day and cry to that romance movie. It can be anything just find anything that makes you happy it is soothing to the soul.

 

  • Write a love letter to yourself

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I know that social media has made a lot of us not appreciate letters or know how to write one. One day take a pen and paper and think about all the beautiful reasons why you think you are amazingly awesome; sometimes, it doesn’t have to be a beautiful one just write and make yourself feel good. I blush when I write mine, and no I am not sharing lol.

 

  • Run away from toxicity

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When I say toxicity, I mean finding yourself in situations that affect you negatively; or finding people that affect you negatively. There are some people who just literally know how to make you angry and complain, they do things that always hurt you. Run from such people and situations.

 

  • Learn to forgive

This can be hard sometimes, very hard. My trick to forgiving is saying it out loud. It might take time to forget but first thing is forgiving. It takes time; you should find a method that works for you and forgive.

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What Nigerian women should know about gestational diabetes.

Gestational Diabetes

Diabetes is a condition in which there is a high level of glucose (sugar) in the blood. Gestational diabetes, however, is when diabetes occurs as a result of pregnancy and it usually disappears after pregnancy. It can occur anytime during pregnancy.

There is no known cause of gestational diabetes, however; the placenta releases hormones which disturbs the work of insulin in the body of the mother. This makes it difficult for the body to use insulin this is called

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We need more Lubes

Lubes are so underrated.

There are a lot of things that occur in our regular daily life when you have two surfaces together and you need to separate or it seems stuck the next solution would be to lubricate with oil or some form of lubricants.

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Lubricants are underrated, to be honest, they just make things easier. I remember growing up, the padlock seems difficult to open the next thing is “pour oil” it can be palm oil or engine oil, doesn’t matter as long as it makes it easier to open the padlock. Applies to wearing a new shoe, recently got a new shoe and I ended up getting bruised at the back of my legs, my cousin saw the plaster and asked: ” what happened to your legs?” I replied, ” it’s the shoe I just bought, it bruised me” her response was ” didn’t you oil your legs well?” ” yeah I did”; ” you didn’t oil your legs well, it’s a new shoe so you need to oil your legs well to prevent it next time”.

I also remember when I was much younger if I wanted to fit in bangles that were not exactly my size my first line of action was to find me a lotion and lubricate my hands.
Guys, use Vaseline or a form of lubrication when masturbating. Masturbation with lubes is another experience entirely (both male and female).

Lubricants just seemed to solve every problem.

So my question is why don’t we think of lubrication with sex? With condoms or Not, we need more Lubes with sex, especially with condoms.
There are a lot of reasons why people don’t use condoms which lubrication will solve.

Females: I dry out easily with condoms, Use a lube.
Males: I have less sensation with condoms, put a few drops of lube in the condom before wearing gives that moist feeling of the vagina.
Female: I have tears sometimes from sex, use a lube.

Note: use only water-based lubricants with condoms and vaginal sex.

I hope we use more Lubes with sex cause we definitely need more lubes.

Your padlock refuses to open at home. You need more lube.
Your vagina drys out easily. You need more Lubes.

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